Stop Divorce And Save Your Relationship
If you want to stop divorce, you have to convince the person what wants to
divorce you to give the relationship another try. This isn’t always
possible, but it’s absolutely necessary if you have a chance of stopping a
divorce. A divorce can be stopped at virtually any stage—before it’s filed
or just before it needs the final paperwork. The earlier you stop a
divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least not
anytime soon.
So to stop a divorce, you must convince the person to give the relationship
another chance. If you have been begging the other person to give you another
try or pleading for them to get back together with you, stop now. This might
seem counterproductive, as if now that the person has less resistance it will
make it easier for them to divorce you. But your pleading probably wasn’t doing
anything but convincing them that divorce is a good idea anyway. Who wants to be
around someone who is behaving that way?
If you can start acting more mature and behave in a more pleasant manner, it
might surprise the other person and help stop divorce. Explain that you
really don’t want the divorce and you want another chance in a calm way.
The person already knows this so you screaming or carrying on won’t help your
chances. Just make it clear that you’re hurt and very sad, and you really
want another chance. You might be surprised how the other person reacts
when you change your behavior.
You can also show a mature side of yourself that the other person might not
have seen over the last several weeks and suggest marital or couples counseling
to stop divorce. Counseling has worked for million of couples and your
relationship could benefit from it, too. If you can get the other person to
agree to couples counseling, then you have precious time before they file for or
attempt to finalize a divorce to convince them to give you and the relationship
another chance.
During counseling you’ll have the opportunity to show the person why they
fell in love with you. You can remind them why you’re together in the
first place. And if you can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the
problems that come up during the counseling—and many probably will—that might be
enough to convince the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but
permanently.
When you succeed and stop divorce, you must remember that the person was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce later. Having already thought about divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one time makes the decision to file again easier. So be aware of the state of your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling. It’s easier to stop divorce temporarily than to have a good relationship for the long term.
If you want to stop divorce, you have to convince the person what wants to
divorce you to give the relationship another try. This isn’t always
possible, but it’s absolutely necessary if you have a chance of stopping a
divorce. A divorce can be stopped at virtually any stage—before it’s filed
or just before it needs the final paperwork. The earlier you stop a
divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least not
anytime soon.
So to stop a divorce, you must convince the person to give the relationship
another chance. If you have been begging the other person to give you another
try or pleading for them to get back together with you, stop now. This might
seem counterproductive, as if now that the person has less resistance it will
make it easier for them to divorce you. But your pleading probably wasn’t doing
anything but convincing them that divorce is a good idea anyway. Who wants to be
around someone who is behaving that way?
If you can start acting more mature and behave in a more pleasant manner, it
might surprise the other person and help stop divorce. Explain that you
really don’t want the divorce and you want another chance in a calm way.
The person already knows this so you screaming or carrying on won’t help your
chances. Just make it clear that you’re hurt and very sad, and you really
want another chance. You might be surprised how the other person reacts
when you change your behavior.
You can also show a mature side of yourself that the other person might not
have seen over the last several weeks and suggest marital or couples counseling
to stop divorce. Counseling has worked for million of couples and your
relationship could benefit from it, too. If you can get the other person to
agree to couples counseling, then you have precious time before they file for or
attempt to finalize a divorce to convince them to give you and the relationship
another chance.
During counseling you’ll have the opportunity to show the person why they
fell in love with you. You can remind them why you’re together in the
first place. And if you can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the
problems that come up during the counseling—and many probably will—that might be
enough to convince the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but
permanently.
When you succeed and stop divorce, you must remember that the person was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce later. Having already thought about divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one time makes the decision to file again easier. So be aware of the state of your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling. It’s easier to stop divorce temporarily than to have a good relationship for the long term.
